Sunday, September 9, 2012

Perspective

It seems that no matter how old I get, I continue to value the advice that I receive from my parents.  What has shocked me, however, is the quality of parenting advice that I receive from my dad.  I always knew that he knew a bit about raising children-he's survived this long with four of us.  I just didn't expect that his advice would be that that resonates with me the most.
For example, after recently complaining about discussing Carter's new found hatred for his crib, this is the advice that I got from my dad (not verbatim, but you catch the drift).
"Did you know that humans are the only species that try to separate themselves from their children prematurely?  If you look at animals, especially the primates, their offspring are attached to their mothers 24/7 until they are ready to venture off on their own.  So if he wants to sleep with you, let him sleep with you.  He'll eventually be ready to sleep on his own."
This got me to thinking-who makes up the rules?  Who has said that babies that are 4 (or any other number of months) should be sleeping in their cribs alone?  This has challenged me to think of all of the other expectations that I put on myself and my baby of how things "should" be.
And, just as icing on the cake, Ryan has also recently come to recognize that we all get a better sleep when Carter is in bed with us, and that it isn't just me selfishly inviting him into our bed.
So where does this put us?  We still continue to try to put Carter to bed in his crib every night (because seriously it would be nice to have our bed to ourselves), but if he doesn't go, we don't fret bringing him into bed with us.

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