Saturday, September 1, 2012

Calling on my Pre-Baby Self

Prior to having a child, I knew it all.  I knew exactly how to deal with any situation, and how to be the perfect parent.  I frowned upon parents that were not doing things the "right" way.
Then I had a child.
This past week has been particularly difficult.  Carter has decided that we must be figuring him out, so figured he might as well change things up.  The bed-time routine that used to work doesn't anymore.  The only way that he will go to sleep is if I rock him, and the moment that I set him down in his crib, he wakes up screaming.  I have surrendered and brought him into bed with me prior to midnight pretty much every night this week.  It's easier than trying to get him into his crib over and over and over again.
I know he is still to young to be manipulative.  I also know, however, that he is putting up a fuss when he really doesn't have any "real" needs.  I think that he is smart enough at this point to realize that crying=getting to sleep with mom, and I don't want to start something that we will have difficulty to undo later on down the road.
And for once, I don't know what to do.
I find myself trying to put myself back into my pre-baby brain.  I had all the answers back then.  What advice would the old me have had for the parent that is now me?  The old me would probably say that if all of his "needs" have been met, to let him cry it out.  The old me doesn't know this child though.  She doesn't know that "crying it out" is not an option.  That history has shown that he can cry for hours straight.  The old me is void of the emotion that goes along with being a parent.
So the experimentation begins.  Tonight I am trying just a sleeper and leaving out the swaddle.  It seems to be working relatively well so far.  We'll just see though.  It may be a long night.  Wish us luck!


  1. Good luck!

    What's the saying...the only perfect parents are those without kids? Or something to that extent!

  2. Good luck! We have a household of awful sleepers and I've experimented the whole way through. I do love the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child though. It helps give me some perspective.